Chris and I read a great Christian book once, I think it was titled "Don't Make Me Count to Three" and it changed our lives for the better. Though it advocates spanking (as do I unapologetically if the situation warrants it) it is mostly about the correction of the problem and learning that by disobeying Mom and Dad, the child is more importantly disobeying God. Great lesson for children!
And since I said that this blog would be "for better or worse" I am going to be brutally honest here. Today I had hit my limit. Sophia comes home every day and she and Anna start fighting non-stop. I just won't allow that to continue, so I needed some creative discipline. I have made them in the past link arms, back-to-back and sit until they could be nice. Today I needed something with a little more contact. I made them stand in a hugging position and tied them up.....with a scarf.....very loosely.....to which they could easily get out although they knew better than to even try!!! Then I got out the camera and began my own photo shoot to document the absurdity that followed. I obviously should have put the camera on an action setting since they were busy thrashing around crying in desparation. But, I did capture the moment well I think. You will see that in the beginning, they were crying. Then they were just plain mad, then they finally calmed down, made up and even gave me a little smile. Then I untied them and they went down stairs and began to play together.
I realize that to some this may seem outrageous, but sometimes as a mom, you do what you have to do to teach your children to not just play together, but to truly love each other and be close friends. Will it work long-term? I sure hope so. If not, I'll try something else. It's too important to give up!